Where I begin and end
has nothing to do
with you.
We are interdependent beings who must constantly renegotiate our relationships. If you're experiencing codependency, or someone has accused you of acting codependently, I'm here to set the record straight.
Codependency is not a psychological disorder. You could see a counselor or therapist who might support you in establishing healthy boundaries, but it is not a diagnosable condition, and no two people agree on a common definition.
Here is mine:
I think of it as spiritual inflammation.
There is something that is irritating you, and you've started to take it personally.
Let's talk about "dependency."
Infants are dependent on others for survival.
Anti-dependent people isolate themselves for myriad reasons.
Codependent people let the behaviors and desires of other people have more influence than their own experience.
Interdependence is what we're looking for.
You didn't pick the coffee beans that made the coffee in your cup. You probably didn't make the cup, and you certainly didn't invent the device you're reading this on. You are already experiencing interdependence in your life. Congratulations, you're not broken ;)
But maybe your life could be better. If you find yourself devoting too much time, energy, money, or attention to the well-being of another person (or many people), and these people are able to speak, feed, and bathe themselves, then I'm here to support you in expanding that healthy interdependence in your life into these relationships and releasing the codependency that is resulting in wasted effort.
Codependency is not a psychological disorder. You could see a counselor or therapist who might support you in establishing healthy boundaries, but it is not a diagnosable condition, and no two people agree on a common definition.
Here is mine:
I think of it as spiritual inflammation.
There is something that is irritating you, and you've started to take it personally.
Let's talk about "dependency."
Infants are dependent on others for survival.
Anti-dependent people isolate themselves for myriad reasons.
Codependent people let the behaviors and desires of other people have more influence than their own experience.
Interdependence is what we're looking for.
You didn't pick the coffee beans that made the coffee in your cup. You probably didn't make the cup, and you certainly didn't invent the device you're reading this on. You are already experiencing interdependence in your life. Congratulations, you're not broken ;)
But maybe your life could be better. If you find yourself devoting too much time, energy, money, or attention to the well-being of another person (or many people), and these people are able to speak, feed, and bathe themselves, then I'm here to support you in expanding that healthy interdependence in your life into these relationships and releasing the codependency that is resulting in wasted effort.
Do I know how I feel?
Do I know what I want?
Do I believe I am enough?
Do I know what I want?
Do I believe I am enough?
You are not capable of managing the physical, emotional, and spiritual needs of another person.
(this is not a challenge, I'm serious)
If you find yourself constantly putting your own needs behind those of another, compromising your way out of the room, feeling small, and forgetting your most basic needs, join me.
Your life has gotten away from you.
Let's get it back.
(this is not a challenge, I'm serious)
If you find yourself constantly putting your own needs behind those of another, compromising your way out of the room, feeling small, and forgetting your most basic needs, join me.
Your life has gotten away from you.
Let's get it back.
Format
We connect over video chat for ten individual sessions over the course of six weeks.
We connect daily via text
We connect over video chat for ten individual sessions over the course of six weeks.
We connect daily via text
You commit to:
- A daily practice of 30-60 minutes first thing in the morning
- Additional hours each week (not including our calls)
- Our calls
How you will "find the time"
- Remove media, social media, and all non-essential shopping
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- A daily practice of 30-60 minutes first thing in the morning
- Additional hours each week (not including our calls)
- Our calls
How you will "find the time"
- Remove media, social media, and all non-essential shopping
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