What is Codependency?
I'm sure you have your own ideas about codependency...
my teacher and mentor Nikki Myers calls it "the disease of the lost self," and I believe that to be the truth.
And
there's more to the story...
my teacher and mentor Nikki Myers calls it "the disease of the lost self," and I believe that to be the truth.
And
there's more to the story...
I believe codependency is the seed of all addictive behaviors. It's a set of strange interpersonal behaviors designed to send cultural signals to our closest friends that we are headed for trouble.
Most of us ignore the signs, the way we might deny a cold or some pesky dandruff that doesn't seem to clear on it's own.
Codependency is spiritual inflammation.
Most of us have it - it's so common and so normal in American culture, we don't even recognize it until it's out of hand.
Maybe when you think of codependency, you think of a mom flying across the country last minute (surprise!) to drive her son to defend his dissertation. It's so inappropriate that it's laughable. But most of us experience low-grade codependency and accept the dash of misery it adds to our lives as simply part of the package of adulthood.
This is not the case.
Codependency is often "saving" someone from the consequences of their actions. It could be tiny actions, sometimes with beautiful and loving intentions, that result in someone getting away with something.
Most of us ignore the signs, the way we might deny a cold or some pesky dandruff that doesn't seem to clear on it's own.
Codependency is spiritual inflammation.
Most of us have it - it's so common and so normal in American culture, we don't even recognize it until it's out of hand.
Maybe when you think of codependency, you think of a mom flying across the country last minute (surprise!) to drive her son to defend his dissertation. It's so inappropriate that it's laughable. But most of us experience low-grade codependency and accept the dash of misery it adds to our lives as simply part of the package of adulthood.
This is not the case.
Codependency is often "saving" someone from the consequences of their actions. It could be tiny actions, sometimes with beautiful and loving intentions, that result in someone getting away with something.
Workshop outcomes:
- Become interdependent
Unpacking the differences between dependence, independence, anti dependence, and interdependence.
- Cultivate the awareness of your own feeling state
In codependency, we learn to key off of someone else's feeling state, and "turn down the volume" on our own experience of the world.
- Become interdependent
Unpacking the differences between dependence, independence, anti dependence, and interdependence.
- Cultivate the awareness of your own feeling state
In codependency, we learn to key off of someone else's feeling state, and "turn down the volume" on our own experience of the world.
